Feelings follow behaviour

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People behave in all sorts of ways for all sorts of reasons. There is always some reasoning behind what they do, even if they don’t consciously know it. The problem lies in the consequences of their behaviour. A simple action or attitude has the power to turn someone’s world upside down. Behaviour has the power to unleash feelings, which in turn unleash more behaviour. It’s a vicious circle that we are caught up in, that vicious circle is life.

To me, the worst possible feeling that follows behaviour is insecurity. Men feel it and act out to protect their egos. However, women are the weakest victims of this vampire of confidence and usually it is the behaviour of men that cause it. Insecurity eats away at a women, it kills her confidence, makes her act out and has the power to create depression and destroy relationships. Despite what everyone would like to think, it is one of the hardest feelings to shake. The worst part is that women blame themselves for this feeling, which is self destructive.

A warning to all the men out there: Be gentle with the woman in your life. Simple bad behaviour such as saying hurtful things, flirting with others and not showing her the attention she deserves will plant the seed of insecurity. Not only will this insecurity grow, but it will change the woman you love and eventually destroy the magic of the love you shared. From insecurity comes other negative feelings such as jealousy and mistrust.  Be kind and bear in mind that a woman is an emotionally driven creature. Don’t hurt her, tell her she is beautiful, if you want to talk to other women make sure she feels secure about your feelings for her and remember that if she really loves you, she would do anything to be the object of all your desires.

And a word to all the women out there: you are beautiful and special in your own way. The man in your life chose you because you were the best thing out there in his eyes. If he makes you feel insecure all the time then leave! Easier said than done, but as emotional as we are as women, we are just as strong. Never let a man make you forget that! Never settle for anything less than you deserve!