Feelings follow behaviour

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People behave in all sorts of ways for all sorts of reasons. There is always some reasoning behind what they do, even if they don’t consciously know it. The problem lies in the consequences of their behaviour. A simple action or attitude has the power to turn someone’s world upside down. Behaviour has the power to unleash feelings, which in turn unleash more behaviour. It’s a vicious circle that we are caught up in, that vicious circle is life.

To me, the worst possible feeling that follows behaviour is insecurity. Men feel it and act out to protect their egos. However, women are the weakest victims of this vampire of confidence and usually it is the behaviour of men that cause it. Insecurity eats away at a women, it kills her confidence, makes her act out and has the power to create depression and destroy relationships. Despite what everyone would like to think, it is one of the hardest feelings to shake. The worst part is that women blame themselves for this feeling, which is self destructive.

A warning to all the men out there: Be gentle with the woman in your life. Simple bad behaviour such as saying hurtful things, flirting with others and not showing her the attention she deserves will plant the seed of insecurity. Not only will this insecurity grow, but it will change the woman you love and eventually destroy the magic of the love you shared. From insecurity comes other negative feelings such as jealousy and mistrust.  Be kind and bear in mind that a woman is an emotionally driven creature. Don’t hurt her, tell her she is beautiful, if you want to talk to other women make sure she feels secure about your feelings for her and remember that if she really loves you, she would do anything to be the object of all your desires.

And a word to all the women out there: you are beautiful and special in your own way. The man in your life chose you because you were the best thing out there in his eyes. If he makes you feel insecure all the time then leave! Easier said than done, but as emotional as we are as women, we are just as strong. Never let a man make you forget that! Never settle for anything less than you deserve!

It is better to practice a little than talk a lot

The title to this post is definitely applicable to presentations and orals, however I can’t say that I practice or “filter” before I open my mouth. If you hadn’t noticed or if you don’t know me, I am a highly opinionated individual. Some might even call me obnoxious. I say what I need to say when I need to say it and don’t give a rats ass what the consequences of my words will be.

My mother always tells me to “Moenie jou mond verby praat nie ” (meaning, don’t say too much),  but I hardly listen. In fact, when she tells me that I get rather upset. I haven’t always been this way,  I used to keep quiet when faced with  situations where I should have spoken up and then I would regret not saying anything afterwards. I am starting to grow up and become a strong young woman. Through this process I have realised that sometimes it is good to say what others are too scared to say and also to speak your mind, as long as you are presenting the truth in the best possible way. I enjoy being opinionated and sometimes people even tell me it is refreshing to know someone who is so honest.

You see, as long as your are speaking truth, no one can ever persecute you for your words because then they will be wrong. What I have learned is that if you have a mouth on you, you have to be careful who you run it off to and you have to wait for the appropriate time to say something. It is also a good idea to listen before you speak as you may get yourself in trouble if you are not properly informed. I was born with a mind and a voice and I am not afraid to use it!

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Wedding cake in-the-middle of the road.

We live in a society where divorce and single-parent homes have become commonplace. People do no longer value marriage as much as they did in the past. The institution of marriage is supposed to be a thing of beauty, love and commitment, yet people are throwing away the magic that most people fantasize about.

Modern society dictates that individuals have choices. Women no longer have to rely on men for financial support and thus no longer need to get married.  People no longer have to get married to have a family and so they have children out of wedlock. People enter into marriage with the thought of, “Well if it doesn’t work we can always just get a divorce.”  Less emphasis on religion and societal norms means marriage is no longer a must. Whatever happened to happily ever after?

I’d like to think that no matter if you are religious or not, you should still want to commit yourself to someone you love so that you may come together as a unit and build a family in love and strength. This is the sanctity of marriage. I frown when I hear jokes about marriage and how terrible it is. Where is the happily ever after that you see in the eyes of two old people holding hands on a park bench? The institution of marriage has become very much like a wedding cake in-the-middle of the road. I hope that one day I can save myself a little slice!

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